Shifting to a new place...

Navi Mumbai...i never knew such a place exists during my school days.it was like a nightmare for me to shift from a place (Borivli) where i lived for 17 years.i had to leave aside all my childhood memories and shift to a completely new place.Navi Mumbai was like a desert for me.i could see nothing other than dry,marshy land.no trees,no greenery nothing at all in my area.what i could see was many high rise buildings cropped in together competing with each other to be the tallest of the lot.I was shocked to see people staying in such a place for years...

I was always against my Dad who took this step of shifting to a new place.i had nobody around me.i had to leave my best pals who were always besides me during my thick and thin.i couldn't imagine this was happening to me.it took very long for me to adjust towards the alienated environment.most of the time i used to remain aloof or locked in my room imagining what to do and where to go.previously what helped me get out from this mess was my college.i felt a little better passing my time with my new friends,knowing more about the place etc.Thanks to my college friends because of whom i am surviving in this area.

it's been five years now, i have shifted to this new place.everything is still so new to me.i still wish i could get back to my old place in Borivli and get back all my forbidden happiness.

A SUNNY EXPERIENCE!

Scorching heat with perspiration, temperature high at 38 degree Celsius and above all …lectures on such a sunny day. Can one imagine sitting in the classroom and attending the lecture in the dog days of summer?

I too couldn’t imagine myself sitting forcibly with my fellow classmates attending my political science lecture on such a sunny day. The teacher with his thick framed glasses stood right in front of us which gave him a clear view of the entire class. The topic for the day was about the political parties starting with congress. As he started with the first line saying—congress, the oldest and strongest political party the lights went off! The students were happy considering the fact that the teacher would end the lecture then and there itself but our professor who was keen in teaching politics and continued with his topic. Front benchers who are always considered as scholars were glued to his subject showing an interest in the political parties whereas the last benchers were already drooping and half asleep and least bothered about the parties as well as the teacher. My books too were wide open, mind wandering with all the possible thoughts I can get other than politics. I wished I could leave the class and chill out in the canteen with a plate of sandwich and a coke in front of me or just sit and relax listening to music in the common room. The professor was least bothered about the falling heads paying attention as his intention was to finish off with the portion and leave the class as soon as possible. Just ten minutes before the lecture could get over, the lights came and we all heaved a sigh of great relief..aah!! It was indeed a pity sight to see the plight of the students as the classroom fans as usual were rusted up and much noisy than being airy.

Classroom cannot be a classroom without students and teachers. But what if one has to attend the lecture on a hot sleepy afternoon. It would be simpler to fall on deaf ears…

premarital sex

Sex, sex and sex, sounds as a hot, raunchy as well as a controversial topic. Premarital Sex—it is all around us. Television, newspapers, magazines, videos etc. contains vivid information on premarital sex. It has become such a common topic for the youth to speak other than their daily chit chats or gossips. Many of them consider sex as a child’s play without realizing the consequences and just having all the fun. The whole area of sex and how to handle sex can be of great struggle for today’s singles. It is true that we are living in the 21^st century and are quite modern enough or rather intelligent itself to understand the pros and cons of sex. Gone are the days when girls used to get married soon as they hit their puberty stage. As the societal behavior is changing particularly in metro cities and towns, the mentality of the younger generation can be understood only by living within the society. Youngsters usually are shy and blush with the name of love itself. How matured are they to understand what is love-making? Youth is trapped in the blind race of adopting the western life style. When we go through newspapers or magazines we find columns and discussions on sex or personal problems. We see most of our youngsters trapped up with various torments and confusions regarding sex and the most common question would be--is getting physical in a relation safe before marriage? Due to the ignorant nature of parents to talk about sex to their children the youth hesitates to discuss the pros and cons and get trapped in these disparities ending in talks revolving around issues of premarital sex and confusions thereof.

Marriage was considered as a sacred thread of bonding between two people. But today’s idea of marriage is a sign of contract between two people. Living-in-relations are strongly encouraged in today’s modern society. They feel marriage as an emotional burden while living relations is an independent decision and no troubles as compared to marriage. It has taken more than thousand years for man to evolve from an animal to a civilized human being, by developing his societal and emotional bonds for his personal growth and family, then how can the act of sex without an emotional security be satisfying? Premarital sex gives a short lived sense of joy while they rebel against the traditional values. Sex education at the right time, at the right age is very essential to serve as a positive medium amongst the youth. With the combination of considerate liberal approach and keeping the traditional values in mind we can restrict such premarital sexual relations to a certain extent. This can only be achieved with the co-operation of the society, parents, educational institutions, media and the strong mindsets of the youth.

With various discussions and debates the topic remains controversial and alive forever. One should always remember though marriage is an old institution; it has a definite scientific value of stability, physical satisfaction, emotional attachment and feeling of security as compared to any other relation.

ARE WE RACIAL?

Can colour become one's identity? Is your skin colour more important than your educational status or you as a person, an individual? Why do people recognize an individual by his/her colour? How can people discriminate because of the skin colour? India is against racial discrimination but Indians are the ones who create racism. This is true in many cases. In order that a person with dark skin should not feel bad they are addressed as 'BLACK BEAUTY'. If beauty really exists then why differentiate as black and white. A rhythmic line which goes like this ‘hum kaale hai toh kya hua dilwaale hai’ has become a soothing line for the mental satisfaction of the dark skinned. A person looks smart, beautiful, is intelligent, is brave only if she/he is fair. Is it so? Whether the skin is black or white isn’t the blood under the skin red? Why don't people realize that? Whether it is beauty contest or admission in a college or job people look how fair you are .we hardly find one amongst the thousands who actually go by the person's personality or aptitude .even the matrimonial demands ask for a girl who is fair and beautiful. This means there is no room for the dark skinned anywhere and they are set apart from the society. Their dreams should be limited as a closed room. If it is fair it is beautiful and dark then ugly. Colour should not be given so much importance. People should realize that the fairness of a person lies in his /her personality .look out the media portrayals, which sets the false image in the minds of the viewers. for e.g.- brand name FAIR N LOVELY'--if you are dark skinned ,you are disqualified from being an airhostess, or a singer and when u apply the cream, u tend to become fair and you win a position. What message does the ad gives the viewers--which a dark skinned person has, no position or an image in the society. He is loser if he is dark. They have also introduced the new cream FAIR AND HANDSOME which shows that a girl ignores the guy because he is dark. Is this the way to sell a product by hurting the sentiments of the people who are dark? It is true that there are people who fall prey to such ads and buy the product. According to the statistics the sales of fair n lovely and other fairness creams are higher compared to other products. I don't know whether the positive results in the cream makes the sales higher or the faith in people that one day the result will be positive makes it higher. The race goes on—who wins? It is not the fair or dark but whether you or me?

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LIFE...risk it like BHUTTO!!

BENAZIR BHUTTO..courageous woman indeed.its indeed sad to believe that she is no more with us.BENAZIR actually risked her life for her country.she stood up for democracy.such an outrageous leader was not deserving for pakistan.it all seems like a planned murder.her journey was planned well before she could do it for herself.Declaration of Pakistan emergency,her return from the exile,attack on her convoy-a sudden threat,contesting for the elections and then her assasination..not so far.she was sure that her life was under threat.but still it needs strong will power and determination for a woman like her to stand with democracy.

benazir devoted and surrendered her life for pakistan.its not so easy to have a feminist leader as brave as benazir once again in pakistan.it is not BENAZIR who owes her country but it is the country who owes a lot to benazir for her great works and deeds which needs a lifetime to accomplish.