premarital sex

Sex, sex and sex, sounds as a hot, raunchy as well as a controversial topic. Premarital Sex—it is all around us. Television, newspapers, magazines, videos etc. contains vivid information on premarital sex. It has become such a common topic for the youth to speak other than their daily chit chats or gossips. Many of them consider sex as a child’s play without realizing the consequences and just having all the fun. The whole area of sex and how to handle sex can be of great struggle for today’s singles. It is true that we are living in the 21^st century and are quite modern enough or rather intelligent itself to understand the pros and cons of sex. Gone are the days when girls used to get married soon as they hit their puberty stage. As the societal behavior is changing particularly in metro cities and towns, the mentality of the younger generation can be understood only by living within the society. Youngsters usually are shy and blush with the name of love itself. How matured are they to understand what is love-making? Youth is trapped in the blind race of adopting the western life style. When we go through newspapers or magazines we find columns and discussions on sex or personal problems. We see most of our youngsters trapped up with various torments and confusions regarding sex and the most common question would be--is getting physical in a relation safe before marriage? Due to the ignorant nature of parents to talk about sex to their children the youth hesitates to discuss the pros and cons and get trapped in these disparities ending in talks revolving around issues of premarital sex and confusions thereof.

Marriage was considered as a sacred thread of bonding between two people. But today’s idea of marriage is a sign of contract between two people. Living-in-relations are strongly encouraged in today’s modern society. They feel marriage as an emotional burden while living relations is an independent decision and no troubles as compared to marriage. It has taken more than thousand years for man to evolve from an animal to a civilized human being, by developing his societal and emotional bonds for his personal growth and family, then how can the act of sex without an emotional security be satisfying? Premarital sex gives a short lived sense of joy while they rebel against the traditional values. Sex education at the right time, at the right age is very essential to serve as a positive medium amongst the youth. With the combination of considerate liberal approach and keeping the traditional values in mind we can restrict such premarital sexual relations to a certain extent. This can only be achieved with the co-operation of the society, parents, educational institutions, media and the strong mindsets of the youth.

With various discussions and debates the topic remains controversial and alive forever. One should always remember though marriage is an old institution; it has a definite scientific value of stability, physical satisfaction, emotional attachment and feeling of security as compared to any other relation.